Not Just A Weekend - It's Father's Day!

                A few years ago, I wrote a book that exposed a lot of things about my personal life.  I talked in detail about my struggles as a man, as a husband and a father.  My past was consuming my now.  My past had affected my happily ever after.   My past struggles were now trying to coincide and exist with my now.  I had issues!  I had issues with myself and I had issues with my father.  I loved him but did not like him.  I resented him for the example he was in front of me.  I resented the way he treated my mother and my sisters.  I did not like him. I did not like being around him.   I had real daddy issues.

                This weekend is Fathers’ Day.  For some, it might be a great family time to express love and appreciation for someone who has been a great leader , provider and support for the family.  For some, they might be grieving the loss of a great man they called Dad.   For some, they might be like how I was and resent this day because it reminds you of the pain that you experienced as a child because your Dad was not the man he should have been. 

                My point this morning is this, it is time to be free.  Free from the hurt and free from the past.  Most people do not realize that pain transfers and if you don’t deal with it , your pain;  hurts and  mindsets transfer to the ones you love the most- your children.  You respond to your spouse out of your hurt.(arguments, contention, strife)  In so many ways, you become what you resent and your  character reflects or  mirrors the person that you resent. 

                So how do you move on.  Here are a few steps to help you enjoy your life the way God intended you to do so.

 

1.       Be honest with yourself about your feelings.

2.       Repent of your sins. (Attitudes, mindsets and actions that you know are wrong)

3.       Forgive the person that hurt you. (Let it go and don’t relive the pain or bad times)

4.       Move Forward. ( Don’t transfer your hurt and pain to your children or spouse)

5.       Proclaim your freedom and peace.  Live in your today!

 

6.     Cherish the good in your life. (  family ,friends, co-workers, church members)

 

Galatians 5:1

Stand fast therefore in the liberty by which Christ has made us free, and do not be entangled again with a yoke of bondage.

 

Have a great Father’s  Day Weekend!  Do better, be better! Enjoy your family and enjoy your life!

 

Brother Clarence